Carrots and Sticks

Posted by on May 13, 2013 in Coaching Tips, Performance, Relationships | Comments Off

Like most of us, you probably grew up with the punishment model. In our house we call this the carrot and stick principle. I like carrots, but not that kind. We’re all familiar with it. Punish the bad, reward the good. Unfortunately, the side effects of that model are that the good get self-righteous and the bad get worse. There are some critical things missing from this model of relationship, too. They include empathy, self-awareness, and empowerment. Image a world, instead, where correct action and self-reflection were taught. A world in which discipline means education, not shaming. A world in which we acknowledge that every soul comes here to thrive, to find...

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Woman Saves Marriage, Launches Practice

Posted by on May 11, 2013 in Executive Clients, Portfolio | Comments Off

My client, an experienced professional with several degrees, came to me in a state of crisis because her marriage was dissolving. After twenty years of marriage with recurring power struggles and years of ineffective work with a variety of therapists, she was ready to give up. My strategy with her was to immediately pull back the pressure she was putting on her marriage. She refocused on meeting her own needs and developed a regular meditation practice. Over time, she was able to gain more emotional control as she saw how she was participating in the power struggles in her marriage. We worked to establish routines in her daily life to support her well-being, and she...

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Software Engineer Refocuses on Wellness

Posted by on May 11, 2013 in Executive Clients, Portfolio | Comments Off

My client, a software engineer at a successful company, came to me with concerns about her satisfaction at work. She was also in the middle of divorcing her husband and knew that she needed support. We first focused on stabilizing her own wellness as she went through the difficult transition of separating and negotiating a settlement with her former partner. She gained confidence as she worked through forgiveness and embraced her future as an autonomous and single woman. Having successfully purchased her own home and moved on from her marriage, she was ready to address her satisfaction levels at work.  At this point it because clear that she wasn’t particularly...

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Woman Finds Her Life Purpose

Posted by on May 11, 2013 in Executive Clients, Portfolio | Comments Off

My client, a stay-at-home mother with two young children, came to me with concerns about staying in her marriage ~ and a nagging urge to do more work than what she was doing. She was clear that she didn’t want to leave her situation for her children’s sake, but she was so unhappy that something had to change. My strategy with her was to focus on meeting her own needs first. Through the process of coaching it became clear that she had been seriously impacted by the loss of her brother when she was a young woman. Through coaching, she came to a deeper level of forgiveness and acceptance, feeling a true peace for the first time in her life.  As she began to...

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Struggling Nonprofit Redefines Mission

Posted by on May 10, 2013 in Business Consulting, Portfolio | Comments Off

This nonprofit called me in to assist with strategic planning efforts since revenues had consistently failed to meet expected goals since the organization’s inception. The identified problem was attendance at events, but as we evaluated the organization thoroughly we discovered that there were underlying issues that were blocking the desired level of success: power struggles between staff and the Board, a poorly defined strategic plan, and programming that was not appealing to the majority of the prospective market. Strategic planning yielded a better organizational structure, including increased documentation for the executive director and handbooks for...

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Under-performing Program Gets Makeover

Posted by on May 10, 2013 in Business Consulting, Portfolio | Comments Off

I was called in to address chronic under-performance in one of the arms of a local nonprofit. A quick business assessment showed that the program lacked structure, the staff needed training in several critical performance areas, and team morale was extremely low after betrayals from the leadership team. I began by building trust with individual team members and cultivating an environment of clear, open communication. As the staff responded to my attention, they became willing to view the future differently than they had in the past and we began giving form to what that future might be. Their accumulated wisdom and experience were not being leveraged by the management...

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