I was on a call with a dozen coaches a few weeks ago, discussing a situation in which a male manager of the team was having difficulty relating to how one of his female colleagues was feeling. A more traditional fellow, he appeared more comfortable with data and facts than with feelings.
Leaps of faith are big in the personal development world. We think we need to go up to the edge of everything we know and then jump, growing our wings on the way down. We put aside practical concerns, prudence, and rationality to step into what we perceive as surrender, faith, and trust in the Divine.
We all have our blind spots. If we’re attuned, we only are aware that they hold us back. We still may not see how to bring light to our personal darkness. Luckily, learning to see is easier than you might think.
All of us, even leaders, feel resentment at times. You might feel a slight from seeing a promotion offered to someone more junior, from someone sharing your ideas in a meeting as if they were their own, or from not having your contributions recognized.
Did you ever make the decision to not expect anything of anyone because then you wouldn’t be disappointed? Or have you decided to be satisfied with security rather than reach out for your big dreams?
The journey of personal development calls us to live in the moment. Yet, we carry our past with us, both in our minds and embedded in the cells of our bodies. How can we balance the past and the present?
We usually celebrate the people who do more, help out, are supportive, and make us feel good. But do you also appreciate the people in your life who tell you “no”?
The most common fear among successful people is that they will somehow be discovered to be a fraud. If you feel that yourself, you might think that you are totally alone….and that there is no solution.
In business, the ability to be cool under pressure is a real asset. Emotionality, impulsivity, and paralysis can cost you big money and keep you in the shallow end of the career pool.
