Resiliency is the physical property that returns a material to its original shape or position after deformation. For humans, it is the ability to meet every single situation that life brings our way.
Your ancestors were resilient, or you wouldn’t be standing on the planet today. You, also, are resilient. If you don’t see this in yourself, this potential to respond may be in the shadow, unexplored.
Resiliency comes from a sense of self-worth. Self-esteem and self-worth aren’t the same thing. Self-esteem is the level of confidence in which you hold yourself. It can be high or low.
You can raise your self-esteem by doing hard things and succeeding. I, for one, gained a tremendous amount of self-esteem by leaving a difficult marriage and successfully building my coaching practice. Children gain self-esteem by trying things, failing, and getting up again. It is a muscle you can build.
Self-worth, on the other hand, is the recognition that you are of value. It’s either present, or it’s not. Self-worth is slippery.
You won’t be able to convince yourself of your innate self-worth by telling yourself you’re worthy. The way to build it is by not focusing on “deserving”, but on “allowing” and “receiving”. Instead of saying you deserve goodness in your life, say you choose to allow goodness in your life. Say you are open to receiving goodness in your life. And the more you allow and the more you receive, the more you will understand who you truly are ~ a being emerging from the Unified Field to have an experience as a human being. With that knowing in place, your self-worth becomes clear, you become resilient, and you can focus on your real work: to be yourself, walking your authentic path.