Do you believe there’s something you “should” do, someone you “should” meet, or a way you “should” live your life? Do you think that relationships and love are “meant to be”?
Wouldn’t you rather be free?
A drive to follow what you “should” do, be, or become ~ as well as the belief that anything is “meant to be” ~ shows a need to be “good”. We want to know what is in the Divine Plan so we can follow it. We believe that this Divine Plan is the roadmap to a divinely inspired life and therefore that if we follow it we will be safe from poverty, illness, and a broken heart. Unfortunately, every person who has ever believed this illusion has experienced loss and suffering, anyway.
The problem is that there is no “Divine Plan”. There is, on the other hand, a universal force that moves us and everything else towards a higher level of integration. This force is more powerful than any other force in the Universe. It is benevolent. It fills each of us and compels us towards our personal development. You can resist, kicking and screaming, but eventually it will prevail. You are free to decide how long it will take to surrender.
When you do finally surrender, it is to the force inside of you that is striving for highest integration ~ not to an external plan that you are “meant” to fulfill. This force inside of you desires certain things and doesn’t desire others. When you begin to calibrate yourself towards the things you want and away from the things you don’t, you become stronger. If you trust that voice, you will always move towards more joy ~ even if you have to move through some sludge to get there.
The obsession with “goodness” over “badness” keeps you from becoming a powerful, integrated force of divine power. But once you move out of the illusion that there is any external force that wants things for you that you don’t want for yourself, you become free. Free to choose what your own higher self wants. Free to say no to experiences and people who do not resonate for you. Free to become the most powerful expression of who you are.